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Peter Koehler

Don't Get Defensive. Get Curious.

You know that feeling when someone contradicts you, or says something you believe is wrong, or ignorant, or offensive?

If you pay close enough attention, you can literally feel it: your jaw tightens, your breath becomes more bated, your heart rate might go up, and you may crinkle your face, or tense your shoulders.

This is the physical . . .

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November 13, 2017

What's on your scorecard?

In basketball, the scorecard is easy: Whoever scores more points in 48 minutes wins the game.

In cooking, the scorecard is slightly more complex. It includes price (how much did the ingredients cost?), time (how long does is take to make?), health (is it good for you?), and deliciousness (does it taste good?). When you master all four . . .

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August 29, 2017

Technology Etiquette

11 rules for modern people

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 1. As a general rule, put your phone away during meals with other people. Not on the table. Out of sight, sound off.

2. For a further challenge, put your phone away during meals alone. Read, listen to a podcast, or just eat and notice your surroundings.

3. If you are expecting a truly important and time-sensitive call or text . . .

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August 23, 2017

5 tips for managing stress

1. Start each day by being proactive, not reactive

We are often most stressed when we are in a reactive mode: Inbox open. Phone notifications on. We answer email after email and new ones keep coming in. We respond to request after request. We get into a compulsive, reactive spiral. And the worst part is that this compulsive mode seeps into . . .

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August 16, 2017

12 small ways to improve your day

1. If you are driving to a neighborhood where street parking is hard to find, just park in the first spot you see within 10 blocks of your destination. Then walk.

2. Treat your phone like a landline. Leave it at home when you go out. Don't worry - it will be waiting for you when you come home. Alternative: Leave it in the car when you go out . . .

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August 07, 2017

What is your MVW?

A lot of people have fitness resolutions for the New Year.

And most people make them WAY too ambitious.

It's really hard to start doing crossfit, or running, or yoga 3X per week, if previously:

  • You rarely or sporadically did that thing.
  • You don't have a specific program to follow.
  • You haven't specifically scheduled it on your calendar . . .

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January 05, 2017

How to Build New Habits

As we close in upon the New Year, you might be thinking about your resolutions.

One of the best ways to improve in your area of choice is to focus on building habits rather than always relying on sheer willpower.

For example, I used to eat ice cream every night. Then I decided to break that habit by replacing it with a new . . .

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December 28, 2016

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