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Peter Koehler

Don't Get Defensive. Get Curious.

You know that feeling when someone contradicts you, or says something you believe is wrong, or ignorant, or offensive?

If you pay close enough attention, you can literally feel it: your jaw tightens, your breath becomes more bated, your heart rate might go up, and you may crinkle your face, or tense your shoulders.

This is the physical . . .

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November 13, 2017

5 tips for managing stress

1. Start each day by being proactive, not reactive

We are often most stressed when we are in a reactive mode: Inbox open. Phone notifications on. We answer email after email and new ones keep coming in. We respond to request after request. We get into a compulsive, reactive spiral. And the worst part is that this compulsive mode seeps into . . .

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August 16, 2017

Working With Constraints

and how to make a summer caesar salad

Silvrback blog imageYesterday our neighbor gave us a big head of romaine lettuce straight from his garden.

The first thought that came to mind was Caesar Salad!

But we had a problem - traditional caesar calls for anchovies and lemons and parmesan - all things we didn't have in our kitchen.

A couple years ago, I would have just shelved the idea, and either saved . . .

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July 17, 2017

The Dark Side of Goal Setting

The more goal orientated we are, the less likely we are to achieve the results we desire.

The more we focus on a future outcome, the lower the probability that it will come to pass.

Why is this?

Because if we condition ourselves to always be striving toward some goal, then inevitably the goalposts will always be moving.

It's the . . .

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July 12, 2017

What to do with our weak minds

Us humans have weak minds. 

We stick to the status quo when we should be making a change.

We hardly ever change our minds, even when we're wrong. 

We make terrible, and easily avoidable, financial choices.

And we're scared of sharks, even though 733X as many humans are killed by freshwater snails.

But it's not all bad news . . .

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April 02, 2017

Status Quo Bias

One of my favorite economists/philosophers, Tyler Cowen, has a great interview on the Ezra Klein Show, which I highly recommend.

At multiple points in the interview, they discuss status quo bias.

Status quo bias is exactly what it sounds like - an emotional bias in favor of the way things are.

The thing about status quo bias which is so . . .

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March 30, 2017

How to Master the Art of the Aggressive Follow Up In Five Simple Steps

My first job out of school was on a political campaign. 

I always recommend campaigns to soon-to-be graduates because you quickly learn a bunch of general skills which are valuable and relevant across sectors. So even if you don't end up in politics, you will acquire skills which you can put to . . .

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December 04, 2016

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