Over dinner during this past New Year's Eve, a group of us sat around the table and all went around and said "For me, this is the year of ______________."
Every person filled in the blank with their theme for the year - their guiding principle.
For me, this is the year of generosity.
This year is all about being generous with my time, my energy, my money, my mind. (Which by the way means saying "no" more often so that when I do say "yes," I am able to give my whole self.)
A woman named Emma challenging me to an arm wrestle in Montana.
Since that dinner, whenever I am faced with the decision to be more or less generous, I know what to do. It's like a program running silently in the background, biasing all of my actions toward generosity.
On my birthday, I decided to the do the same thing. This next year of my life is the year of physical prowess.When I don't feel like going to the gym, or stretching, etc. I just remember that this is my year of physical prowess, and often it gives me the motivation I need.
To be clear, there have been plenty of times this year when I have been ungenerous or physically lazy, because I am a human and not a program. But if not following through scares you, then you'll never start anything.
Declaring a purpose adds a layer of awareness about something that is important to you.
When you say out loud "this is the year of _________"the first time it might be forgettable. But if you say it over and over again, it becomes something more. A guiding principle. An invisible force that directs your awareness and your actions.
I like to think of awareness as a tie-breaker.
For example, I have found myself having this exact sequence of thoughts: "In this moment, I could either step up and be more generous, or I could not. I mean nobody would notice or care if I weren't any more generous. But come on Peter - this is the year of generosity! I am cultivating a practice here, I am updating my second nature. So yeah, generosity it is!"
Now, fill in the blank:
For me, this is the year of _____________________.
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