My Gramps died last Tuesday at the age of 86. You can read his obituary here.
I love this part:
Peter lived with unending humility, sweetness of heart, dry and clever humor, loyalty and love. He gracefully demonstrated the true meaning of appreciation and gratitude through his actions and words every single day, to his very last.
To me, the key phrase is "every single day." For Gramps was nothing if not consistent.
He wasn't simply humble on Sundays, he was humble every single day.
He didn't reserve his kindness for good moods, he was kind every single day.
He wasn't just gentle with Nana, he was gentle with every person, every single day.
He didn't save his gratitude for the holidays, he demonstrated gratitude and grace every single day.
He didn't only act classy when he went to the opera, he was a class act every single day.
And he wasn't just loyal when it was convenient, he was loyal to his people (and animals) every single day.
Every Single Day is not easy. It's really not. We all try to be one thing or another every single day and most of us fail most of the time.
Gramps taught me many things, but steadiness and consistency might be number one.
"Actions speak louder than words" might be number two.
They are deeply intertwined - for it is the steady actions, the ones we exhibit day upon day and then year upon year, that come to define the person we are and the life we live.
Gramps was always about the long game. He never felt the need to toot his own horn or take credit for anything.
Thank you for leading by example Gramps, and for teaching me how to lead a good life.
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