It’s all your fault.
Remember that this year.
If your relationship with a colleague, family member, or boss is strained, it’s your fault.
When someone on your team drops the ball, it’s your fault.
That time someone yells at you? Yep, your fault.
It’s not about blame. It’s about empowerment. Empowering yourself to take radical ownership over your life.
Take the necessary steps to mend fences with your boss, or your parent. Don’t wait for them.
When a colleague misses the mark, own the fact that you could have been more clear in communicating expectations and better at offering support. Then help them succeed next time.
When someone is angry with you, remove yourself, and watch the situation through their eyes and you’ll see how powerful it would be if you respond “I’m sorry, this is my fault.”
When it’s all your fault, the world opens up and becomes one of possibility. You no longer have to wait for others to take ownership, because you already have.
Originally published in A New Year's Reader
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